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Trigger warning: This article deals with sensitive topics such as child abuse, sexualized violence, and societal failure. If you are affected, only read this text if you feel stable enough. You can find help offers at the end of the article.
Why we as a society look away when it hurts
Germany in 2026. We live in a society that sees itself as enlightened, modern, and progressive. We talk about sustainability, diversity, and mental health. But when it gets really uncomfortable – when the truth knocks on our doors and screams for attention – then we look away.
Taboo topics in our society are not relics of the past. They exist here and now, in every city, in every neighborhood, in every family. According to surveys, 39 percent of Germans avoid talking about family problems because they consider them “too private.” The situation is similar with topics such as death or serious illnesses.
But what happens to the topics that nobody talks about? With child abuse in Germany, which happens every day – often just a few meters away? With the victims who remain silent for decades because nobody listens to them?
This article breaks the silence. It reveals seven truths that we as a society suppress – and explains why true stories like the one in “Im Abgrund” are necessary to finally tear down this wall.
The 7 truths we don’t want to hear
1. Abuse doesn’t happen “elsewhere” – it happens next door
The most uncomfortable of all truths: Child abuse in Germany is not a problem of “others.” It doesn’t just take place in social hotspots, not just among “the asocial,” not just in distant countries.
It happens in single-family homes with well-kept front yards. In families who go to church on Sundays. With people you greet when you drive to work in the morning.
Statistics from the Federal Criminal Police Office document tens of thousands of cases of sexualized violence against children every year. The number of unreported cases is many times higher. But we don’t talk about it – because it would destroy our perfect world.
2. The failure of the justice system is systematic
Perpetrators are rarely convicted. Proceedings are discontinued. Evidence is not sufficient. Statements are pitted against statements.
The German legal system is not a rescue for many survivors of abuse, but a second traumatization. They have to repeat their story in front of strangers, are grilled by lawyers, and in the end: nothing happens.
This reality is not an isolated case – it is systematic. And as long as we don’t recognize that, nothing will change.
3. The shame of the victims is intentional
Why do those affected remain silent for so long? Why do some need decades before they can talk about what they have experienced?
Because our society instills shame in them. Because children learn that you don’t talk about “such things.” Because adults they confide in say: “You’re imagining it.” Or worse: “What did you do to make that happen?”
The shame of the victims is no coincidence. It is a tool of the perpetrators – and a society that looks away becomes an accomplice.
You can find out more about the psychological background in our article about trauma and memory.
4. Witnesses look away – out of fear or convenience
Abuse rarely happens completely unnoticed. There are neighbors who hear strange noises. Teachers who see injuries. Relatives who have a bad feeling.
And yet: they remain silent. Out of fear of getting involved. Out of uncertainty as to whether they are “right.” Out of convenience, because it is easier to do nothing.
The looking away of the witnesses is one of the most tragic truths. Because every hint, every inquiry, every outstretched hand could have changed a life.
5. The “perfect world” lie protects the perpetrators
Germany loves its self-image: orderly, safe, civilized. But this facade of a perfect world protects no one except the perpetrators.
It enables people to ignore warning signs. It allows institutions to cover up scandals. It gives society permission to dismiss uncomfortable truths as isolated cases.
As long as we cling to this lie, perpetrators will continue to act under the protection of societal blindness.
6. Those affected are silenced
Those who tell their story are not always received with open arms. Often there is mistrust, disbelief, even hostility.
“Why are you telling this now?” “Do you just want attention?” “Why didn’t you fight back?”
These questions are not harmless inquiries. They are weapons of silence. They signal to those affected: Your story is not welcome. Shut up.
German biographies about abuse and trauma are therefore so rare – not because there are no stories, but because telling them becomes a struggle in itself.
7. The next generation pays the price
Unprocessed trauma is passed on. To children, to partners, to entire families. Those affected who have never received help often struggle with the consequences for a lifetime – and sometimes the patterns are unconsciously repeated.
Taboos protect no one. They only ensure that the pain never stops. That every generation makes the same mistakes again. That we as a society stagnate, while individuals break in silence.
Why Daniel G. Anders is breaking through this wall
In the midst of this silence, there are voices that refuse to be silenced. One of them belongs to Daniel G. Anders.
In his book “Im Abgrund – Die wahre Geschichte von Pussyboy” (In the Abyss – The True Story of Pussyboy), he tells his own story. Raw. Unvarnished. Without trying to make it palatable.
It’s not an easy read. It’s not a story you read in the evening to relax. It is a document of survival – written by someone who puts the unspeakable into words because he knows: Only when we talk about it can something change.
“Im Abgrund” is more than an autobiography. It is a mirror that Daniel G. Anders holds up to our society. A mirror that we have to look into – even if we don’t like what we see.
The book is aimed at adults (18+) who are ready to face the truth. At people who want to understand what is happening behind closed doors. To all who believe that true stories have the power to break taboos.
You can find out more about the book on the official book page.
It’s time to look
Taboo topics don’t disappear when we ignore them. They grow in the dark. They poison generations. They destroy lives.
The first step towards change is simple – and at the same time infinitely difficult: Look. Listen. Believe.
Books like “Im Abgrund” give a voice to those who have been silent for too long. They show us what we don’t want to see – and that’s exactly why they are so important.
“Im Abgrund – Die wahre Geschichte von Pussyboy” is available as an e-book on Amazon. Price: €4.99. Age rating: 18+.
If you are affected by abuse or need help, you can find support at the Hilfetelefon Sexueller Missbrauch (Helpline for Sexual Abuse): 0800 22 55 530 (free and anonymous).